From one of his presentations:
I was preparing to speak at an I Can Do It conference and I decided
to bring an orange on stage with me as a prop for my lecture. I opened a
conversation with a bright young fellow of about twelve who was sitting
in the front row.
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him.
He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course.”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”
“No!” he laughed.
“What about grapefruit juice?”
“No!”
“What would come out of it?”
“Orange juice, of course.”
“Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”
He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point.
“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”
I nodded. “Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you.
And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you
don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness,
fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because
that’s what’s inside.”
It’s one of the great lessons of life.
What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends
you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s
inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing—your mother, your
brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says
something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s
inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.
When
someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other
than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once
you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and
replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning
life. Thanks, my young friend, and here’s an orange for you!
Dr. Wayne Dyer (May 10, 1940 - August 29, 2015)